Dating physical chemistry
So--in keeping with my belief that I should be guided by The Golden Rule in dating, and all things--I sent him an email Monday saying: "As much as I enjoyed our time together, I didn't feel that huge, crazy spark--for whatever lamentable and inexplicable reason. I happened to be checking out the next chapter of HOW TO LOVE LIKE A HOT CHICK-- the book that gave us those suggestions about single-person experiences every chick should have--which has been residing on my desk these past few weeks (alongside the two other books I'm reading--WAR PEACE and WATERMARK).
But I'd truly like to get to know you better, as a friend, if you're up for that."Sean O'Sean wrote back to say he HAD felt a spark, and that he didn't think it would be very productive or comfortable to hang again, under the circumstances. Should I have just shut up and gone through with another date? And I noticed a section titled "How to Tell If You Have Chemistry." The authors went on to list with 3 "chemistry cues" ... When you first meet a guy and are in the initial stages of dating, pay attention to what you say to your girlfriends ...
Three years ago, I fell madly in love with this lively, fascinating guy (plays in a band, popular, surprises you at work with chocolate, picks you wild flowers type of guy).
We had similar thoughts and passions and were able to understand each other incredibly well.
I love him very much, but we do not have the same "chemistry" that I shared with the first person. I just saw the first guy again this week and was reminded again how strong the chemistry is between us.Lovelies: Last Thursday, I went on yet another Internet date.The guy was a lawyer with what my father would call a "good Irish name"--let's say his name was Sean O'Shaunessey. I did not feel the red hot pangs of lust for this very nice person, who was perfectly attractive, quite smart, and apparently successful.His head is like gold, pure gold; his locks are like clusters of dates and black as a raven.His eyes are like doves beside streams of water, bathed in milk, and reposed in their setting.